Let's Grow Your Business with Heart!
At Reina + Co, we help creatives like you who have all the ideas and want help focusing on the most important things. We want to empower you with the tools you need to take decisive action that will help you to grow a business that's Fueled with Heart.
Creative Entrepreneur
What to do When Somebody’s Success Makes You Jealous

What to do When Somebody’s Success Makes You Jealous


Jealous? Even in the era of #communityovercompetition, there’s still competition and there’s still jealousy. Even if you don’t want to admit it, you know the truth which is that somebody’s success is triggering you! Whether it’s because they have something you want or because you believe they don’t deserve the level of success, thinking this way doesn’t get you any closer to where you want to be.

Success in entrepreneurship is achieved beating the mindset game. By having tools to get you through those triggering situations, it can help you to diffuse those emotions and help you get into a mindset that’s more productive to achieve your own version of success, even if that means something similar to your competition.

I asked two coaches who help entrepreneurs with mindset about what it looks like to be triggered, what it can do to our businesses and how to break free from it:

Jealous? Here’s advice from Jessica Eley, Personal Development & Mindset Coach.

Anger, frustration, and jealousy are really good signs of being triggered. So is anything that you would give the “Wow” emoji to (if you would mean it sarcastically), or anything that you’d share with a friend for the purposes of validating how “ridiculous” something is (those messages often start something like this, “Oh. My. Gosh! Did you see that so-and-so got/bought/is selling such-and-such?!”).

When you have that kind of reaction to someone’s success, it’s almost always because their values don’t line up with yours OR because you’re frustrated that you haven’t achieved similar results yet. In either case, recognize that your reaction is coming from a place of criticism (either of them or yourself). Instead, try to find something about the other person’s success that you can admire, or at least respect – how they got it or what they’re doing with it.. Then, take ask yourself how you can translate their approach into something that will help you achieve your definition of success.

Jealous? Here’s advice from Lacey Craig, Business Mentor and Success Coach.

When you’re feeling triggered by someone else’s success there are two things that you can do. The first is to look within… what about their success is triggering something in YOU? Are you unavailable for more success or for taking the steps they’re taking to create success?

The other piece is to know that the universe won’t show you something that’s not possible for you. You seeing their success is a reminder of what’s possible for you if you desire to claim it… the question is… Do you desire it? Will you claim it?”

Jealous? Recognize Your Triggers + What to do

You can recognize your triggers as they come up by noticing that you’re turning into an ugly version of yourself. Even if it’s to yourself, you discount somebody’s success, say mean things about them, and you judge them as a human being. When somebody gets something that we want, it’s because, even briefly, we believe that there is a shortage of that (whether it’s money, accomplishments, clients, fame, recognition), which is not true. You have to believe that there is an abundant supply of success for each of us.

Here’s a quick exercise that I use myself:

  1. Take a deep breath and count to 10.
  2. Think or write down at least 3 things you’re grateful for right now. Gratitude quells jealously a little at a time.
  3. Ask yourself if you’re doing what it takes to get to a meaningful goal. (Sometimes we get triggered about something that we didn’t even know we wanted or something that’s not something we’re focused on achieving).
  4. If you do speak unkindly about somebody to your friend, yourself, your partner, tame your ego and acknowledge also what they are doing well.

There’s enough for all of us. Let’s lift each other up rather than tearing each other down because of jealousy.

Check out all the ways you can work with Reina!

Share On Social

  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
Join the Conversation